Being active in church and acting as a devoted servant of God is a typical example of covert spiritual abuse by the NM, Mellody, , p In the Recovery section of this site , we look at ways to recover from abuse. She "guesses" that "maybe" she "might have" done something wrong. Because I cant stand by and watch her destroy him any longer. Your property is given away without your consent, sometimes in front of you. This happens when she feels shamed and needs to put it on her scapegoat child and the projection therefore comes across as being an attack out of the blue. These babyish complaints and responses may sound laughable, but the narcissist is dead serious about them. March 16, at 5: Every one of us has to decide how to emancipate and break free from the bad relationships in our lives. Victims of abuse can reproduce the same type of abuse with their own children. May 25, at 8: It is empowering me to look at myself not in a narcissistic way, you understand! She was competing with me and trying to wash my husbands underwear like he is a small boy.